Joint children and visitation arrangements
Separating from your partner and arranging visitation for joint children is particularly complicated in cases of violence. If you hold joint custody, or court-ordered visitation arrangements have been made, it will still be necessary to communicate with your ex-partner with regard to your children.
Certain protective measures – such as blocking numbers and contacts – cannot be taken if you need to stay in touch because of the joint children.
It might be helpful to use an additional messenger service, and a separate email address, to communicate with your ex-partner.
In this way, everyday communication with friends and family can remain undisturbed, and the messenger service and email address can only be accessed if it is really necessary to communicate with your ex-partner.
If possible, consider choosing a new number and obtaining a separate mobile phone.
If the perpetrator is still trying to control you through stalking, you should continue to follow the advice regarding stalking. The children's devices should also be checked for spyware. Special caution should be exercised with new devices which your ex-partner gifts you.
Even if you have to communicate with your ex-partner because of visitation arrangements for your joint children, he is still not allowed to threaten, insult or harass you. If he does, you can take legal action against him.